Effective leaders speak with their actions first and talk about resolutions later.
Human beings are so predictable! So, the new year has rolled around and the yearly planners are taken out to set the resolutions for 2020. The list may look like this:
- Start an exercise program.
- Better time management
- Get married.
- Go on a cruise.
- Start a program of study.
- Quit smoking.
- Have a baby.
- Invest in stocks.
- Give more to charity in time and/or money.
- Start a new business.
By definition, a resolution is simply, “A firm decision to do or not to do something” (Lexico, 2020; https://www.lexico.com/en/definition/resolution). Collin’s Dictionary (2020) defines a New Year’s resolution more specifically as:
“a promise to yourself or decision to do something, esp to improve one’s behaviour or lifestyle in some way, during the year ahead.”(https://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/new-year-resolution).
We know from research that 80% of new year’s resolutions fail within a few weeks! So, no matter how bold the resolution is at the start of a new year, they are often forgotten by the end of February.
So, instead of making resolutions, why not just get up and start doing them? At least if you do them a couple times one week, and then a few more times the next week, and again the following week, the actions to fulfill the resolutions are already in-progress. And, after several weeks of repetition in the same context, it is unlikely that you will forget it (Gardner et. al. ,2012; https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3505409/; Quora, 2018; https://www.forbes.com/sites/quora/2018/02/13/the-science-behind-adopting-new-habits-and-making-them-stick/#568a9bf043c7). Instead, you will make some way to keep it going by some small action on a regular basis.
What’s even better is to get some help! Having someone else involved as an accountability partner or a co-labourer makes it easier to meet the goals that we have set for oursleves and our team.
Consider the resolution to donate to charity. Generally, people give to a cause that resonates with them. So, celebrity, Kylie Jenner, decided to show her support for wildlife by donating to the Australian Fire Rescue effort because of the wildfires that have been burning since September 2019 destroying their habitat as well as destroying homes (Calvario, 2020; http://www.msn.com/en-xl/lifestyle/celebs/kylie-jenner-donates-dollar1-million-to-australia-fire-relief-after-receiving-backlash-for-wearing-fur-slippers/ar-BBYIMbG?MSCC=1578500856&ocid=spartandhp). But, in her simple act of making a donation we discover that other celebrities have also given their support at varying levels. Why is this important? Because it shows growing support for a cause that is of interest to large communities.
And, if you are a leader determined to make a change, expect backlash! There will always be critics who do not understand what you do and who will have something negative to say. Let it glide over you like water on a duck’s back. Just keep pressing forward giving the world the best that you have to offer.
So, stop thinking about it and just begin to do it! The details will work themselves out and a more regular pattern will be established once you make the first step. See more at http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/KeishaAMitchellPhD . And, watch the powerful video of Steve Harvey’s personal journey when you have a little more time and see how his dream, his faith, his choices and his circumstances brought him to where he is today.