Celebrating Dad: Becoming A Father.

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Your life will change beyond your wildest imaginations!

Someone I know just became a father.  As I asked him about his newborn son, his eyes lit up.  There was this immediate glow that was inexplicable.  There was a peace that said, “Yes.  It finally happened.”  There was a deep abiding joy beyond words could express.

But, when we go behind the scenes and look at taking the baby home, does the reality meet with expectations?  Laugh for a moment as you check out these moments concerning expectations versus reality:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=broySUxr3dI .

As I contemplated the future and the role that mental health practitioners must play in it, I have decided to devote this month’s blogs to “Celebrating Dads.”  If you have a suggested topic, I would love to hear it in the comments box below.  It’s going to be all about dads for the next couple of weeks.

We all need balance.  And, our very existence is due to balance between the male’s and the female’s contributions to life.  Your gender is determined by your mother’s XX chromosome and your father’s XY chromosome.  How they come together determine whether you are XX (girl) or XY (boy).

So, there’s no getting around the fact, that it definitely takes two to make all of you!

But, what goes through the mind of a new father as he experiences those first few days of fatherhood.  The prospect of becoming a father, being responsible for the life of another, can be intimidating.  So, how does he manage his anxiety as he is introduced to his child for the first time?   How does he learn through mom to bond with his child?

If you are a new dad or planning to be one day, these 3 dad’s have much to say on their journey into fatherhood: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTRJyedRTc0 . Some of it is laughable, some of it is scary, but all of it reveals the reality of this new journey.

If you are still laughing because you realize that you are not so strange after all, then that’s great!  If you are laughing because you recognize some of the mistakes that your dad made with you, then that’s even better because you can forgive him for his ignorance.  And, if you are crying because you wish you had been a better dad, then start today with a phone call to one of your children and say “Hello.  This is your father.  I just wanted to let you know that I was thinking about you.  I will call again soon.”

Seriously, kids do not come with instruction booklets! 

Even though you may have read books and watched programs talking about it, nothing quite prepares you for being a first time father.  So, take your time as you consider the joys and the sorrows associated with this great company.  Before you go, check out the Dad University, and hear their 7 tips for first time dads at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m0qFukOJ_9Uv .

Until the next installment of “Celebrating Dads,” please survey my books at http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/KeishaAMitchellPhD.   There are some great resources for dads who need some encouragement for themselves, and dads with teen-aged children.

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